The feelings one might have of being violated or abused (whether physically, emotionally, sexually...etc) can happen whether the incident takes place in person, over the phone or through the internet... So your feelings are quite natural I would imagine, given the situation, and nothing to minimize. It is a legitimate trauma that you have experienced, maybe suppressed for a while and probably something worth seeking professional help for. Especially, if it causing you significant traumatic distress in the present.

Yeah I think you're right to approve it, but it's good for readers to be aware of the fact that it's a really old post, so I just wanted to point that out.

True- I approved it anyway, thinking they may see it, you never know.

But it is unlikely.

The OP hasn't been online since 2013.

Sounds rough.

People are kidding themselves when they talk about the type of self-sacrifice that entails giving your all to your sick child.

I know there's a politically correct response. I hope that you haven't immersed yourself into that image to the point where you believe it even when it's just you at night in a dark room.

You may love your child (or you may not, the truth of that is irrelevant), but you should understand your own needs for survival. Weigh your empathy against how much you are willing to sacrifice of yourself, and find intelligent methods to give yourself everything you need.

As for the advice specifically for what you asked for, give your son alternate options of what he can do instead of raging, and no matter what choice he makes learn to remove your emotions from the result. Take regular holidays away from him.